If you suspect that your preschool age (3-5) child has a disability, it’s important to take proactive steps to understand your child’s needs and seek appropriate support. Here’s a structured approach to getting started:
WHERE TO BEGIN
PRESCHOOL
OBSERVE AND DOCUMENT CONCERNS
Start by noting what you’re noticing (speech delays, trouble with coordination, behavior challenges, sensory sensitivities, etc.)
When you notice it (at home, in daycare, with other children)
How it affects daily routines or play
This documentation helps professionals better understand your concerns.
TALK TO YOUR CHILD'S PEDIATRICIAN
Share your concerns and ask for a developmental screening.
Your pediatrician can help rule out or refer you to:
Audiologists (for hearing)
Neurologists or developmental pediatricians
Psychologists or speech-language pathologists, etc.
REQUEST A FREE EVALUATION THROUGH YOUR SCHOOL DISTRICT
Even if your child is not yet in kindergarten, the local public school system must evaluate children suspected of having a disability.
Contact your district’s Child Find program or Preschool Special Education Department.
You can make a written request for an evaluation under the Individuals with Disabilities Education Act (IDEA).
Sample request:
“I am requesting a full evaluation for my child, [Child’s Name], who is [Age], because I have concerns about [brief description]. Please let me know the next steps in the process.”
FOLLOW UP WITH THE SCHOOL
The school should respond within a reasonable timeframe (often within 30-60 days). If they don’t respond, follow up with a call or email.
GET THE EVALUATION
A team will assess areas such as:
Speech and language
Cognitive and academic skills
Motor skills
Social-emotional development
Adaptive behavior
You’ll meet afterward to review the results.
ATTEND THE PLANNED MEETING
If your child qualifies for services, an Individualized Education Program (IEP) will be created. This may include therapies (speech, occupational, physical), special education preschool, or supports in a regular preschool classroom.
PARTICIPATE & MONITOR PROGRESS
Attend IEP meetings and ask questions. Communicate with teachers and therapists regularly. Support your child’s development at home with routines, play, and encouragement.
PROVIDE SUPPORT AT HOME
Create structured routines—toddlers thrive on predictability.
Use simple visuals, songs, gestures, and play-based learning.
Break tasks into small steps and celebrate every success.
Model skills—your child learns best by watching you.
TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF
This journey can be emotional and exhausting. You matter too.
Find moments for self-care, seek respite, and lean on support systems.
FINAL THOUGHTS
Early intervention is key. By taking action as soon as concerns arise, parents can help their child build the skills and confidence needed to succeed.