Here’s a general breakdown (it can vary by state and individual needs):
TRANSITION TIMELINE

GENERAL GUIDELINES
MIDDLE SCHOOL AGES 12-14
»Start talking with your child about their hopes and dreams for the future.
»Notice their strengths, interests, and what makes them excited.
»Begin introducing everyday independence skills (chores, money, self-care).
»Encourage your child to speak up for themselves in small ways.
»Stay involved in school planning and share your family’s vision.
EARLY HIGH SCHOOL AGES 14-16
»Work with the school to set future goals for education, work, and life.
»Help your child connect what they are learning in school to real-world careers.
»Support your child in trying out new experiences (clubs, volunteering, job shadowing).
»Encourage your child to practice making choices and expressing preferences.
LATER HIGH SCHOOL AGES 16-18
»Refine your child’s goals and help them focus on the path after graduation.
»Build job skills and practice independence (using transportation, budgeting, time management).
»Learn about and connect with adult services (like vocational rehabilitation, disability supports).
»Encourage real-world experiences (internships, part-time jobs, community programs).
»Consider options for conservatorship, also known as guardianship, and alternatives to it, such as supported decision-making if needed.
BEFORE GRADUATION/EXIT AGES 18-21
»Your young adult reaches the age of majority, regardless of disability and whether they still live at home.
»Make sure adult supports and services are set up before your child leaves school.
»Continue practicing daily living skills (cooking, shopping, health care, managing money).
»Support your child in gaining more independence in the community.
»Celebrate accomplishments and ensure there’s a plan in place for life after high school.
WHAT IS IMPORTANT TO REMEMBER?
Transition is a process! It takes a lot of work and a lot of time! Transitioning to adulthood isn’t always easy, but with the right support and resources, your child can move through this important time with confidence. The key is to start early, being proactive gives your child a better chance to access the services and support that truly fit their needs. Every young person is different, and their transition plan should reflect their unique goals and strengths. As a parent, your steady support and encouragement make a huge difference. While professionals and service providers may come and go, your presence and advocacy will always be a constant in your child’s life.